We do quarrel, but have sex once or twice a week

Until you can see beyond the headiness of your night with this man, says Annalisa Barbieri, don’t make any rash decisions about your marriage

I am a 38-year-old woman, married with two young children. Recently, I went on a business trip and had an affair with a man 30 years my senior and something of a mentor figure. The following day he avoided me; when he did finally talk to me, he was distant and patronising.

When I emailed him about work, it took him a week to respond. Several days later, I sent him another email telling him how I felt, but also included work-related things; I wanted to indicate that I was happy to leave it at that. He responded to every banal detail in the email, but avoided any mention of what had happened between us. Read the rest of this entry »